PC 488 Hope – WhatsApp with Sami

This week we’ve been in the capital of Argentina, Buenos Aires and we flew back to Rio de Janeiro today. I will obviously devote next week’s postcard to our time in ‘BA’, the city founded in 1536 by Pedro de Mendoza, who named the fort and port settlement after ‘Nuestra Señora Santa Maria del Buen Aire’, a patroness of sailors, venerated by Spanish sailors to ensure safe voyages. The translation means ‘fair winds’ or ‘good air’. Yesterday I managed a video WhatsApp call with Sami, who was sitting in the Hope Café in Hove; there is a four-hour time difference.

“Hey! Richard! Good to see you! You’ve already caught the sun, but that nose of yours is always red, as opposed to suntanned!!”

“Funny! I have lived with this nose for a long time and yes, it never goes brown. Used to peel a great deal when sailing, salt water and sun always detrimental to the skin! Just have to live with it or walk around with it covered in zinc ointment; not a good look. (See alsoPC 190 ‘Up My Nose!’ August 2020.)”

“Talking of noses, did you see that article in the Times about our concept of pain, and the illustration of a nail up someone’s nose?”

“Remind me?”

“According to the psychologist Rachel Zoffness (Note 1), pain ‘is rooted in a mix of biological, psychological and social factors. This biopsychosocial model views symptoms as more than the mere sum of damaged tissue’.”

“We’ve all suffered pain, often so excruciating one needs a  strong pain killer. I remember before my L4/L5 microdiscectomy on my back I was offered gabapentin. I took one, felt awful and never took another. You mentioned a nail up someone’s nose? Do you have a photo?”

“The Times article had one of the X-ray of Patrick Lawler’s skull. A labourer in Colorado, Lawler had inadvertently banged himself in the face with a nail gun. He thought nothing of it but 6 days later had a vague toothache. The dentist’s X-ray showed a 10cm nail up his nostril, buried in his brain. Zoffness contrasted this story with one of a builder in the UK in 1995, who’d stepped on a 15cm nail that had gone all the way through his boot and out the top. He was in such pain the hospital sedated him with fentanyl and midazolam. Yet when they cut away his boot, the doctors found the nail hadn’t touched his foot at all.”

“Ah! He automatically thought when he saw the tip of the nail that it had gone through his foot and this triggered an automatic psychological pain response. Wow! I always told my clients that we can only focused on one thing at once and illustrated this by saying: ‘If you stub your toe, your toe hurts. You bend down to rub your toe and bang you head on a table; what hurts? Your head!’”

“What’s that T-shirt you’re wearing? What does it say?”

“It says: “Teachers – The Original Influencers” and it was seen in a school in Zimbabwe by Benedicte Deutsch. Benedicte is a wonderful example of doing something you think you could. She was over 50 when she decided to become a Paramedic here in Sussex. She needed to do a year upgrading some of her French qualifications, then a three-year degree before she could put on the green uniform. She’s been assisting people in stressful situations in Worthing ever since, but last summer she spent three weeks volunteering in Africa. Hence the T-shirt.

“Is what you’re wearing from Zimbabwe?”

“No! She told me about it; I thought it would be fun to sketch it out and have one printed off, especially as my daughter’s been teaching for decades. Incidentally Sami, Brighton & Hove is such a diverse city, isn’t it? Just love living here.”

“And you’re making this statement because ….

“We use the bus most weekdays to go to yoga and regularly see a couple of chaps who clearly live in a different world, inside their heads. Often we see one, but the other morning saw both. They are amiable, non-offensive and live in a very musical world, often singing the lyrics to some well-known song quietly to themselves, over and over again …. not afraid of eye contact, always polite and say ‘good morning’ then retreat, back into their head. I sometimes wonder whether I should miss my 1000 class and stay on the bus, to understand what their day will be like, where they will go, who they will meet. Maybe they go to the same place ……”

“Didn’t I read somewhere, and given your military background you could confirm this, that a senior officer wrote in one of his subordinate’s annual Confidential Report: ‘His soldiers follow him, but only out of curiosity.’? Maybe your own curiosity will dictate missing yoga one morning.”

“Maybe it will Sami. You and Lisa got a holiday planned this summer?”

“Huh! We were planning a couple of weeks in May in Dubai. Never seen the place, have friends who live there and love it. However ……”

“You going to mention the conflict with Iran?”

“We’ve booked to go to Sicily instead. A little safer, although everyone else seems to have the same idea and it’s getting quite booked up, although we’re going before the schools close, so it’ll be OK!”

“And before I end the call, Sami, must tell you that the most exciting piece of mail I got just before we left Hove was a letter from HMG’s Department for Work & Pensions, informing me of ‘the general increase in benefits’ I will receive in the new Tax Year. In the small print at the bottom, I was delighted to read that I would also have an extra 25pence per week from my 80th Birthday.”

“Lucky you. The generosity of The State! See you next month. Safe travels.”

“Indeed!”

Richard 25th April 2026

Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

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Note 1 ‘Tell where it hurts: The Science of Pain and how to heal’ by Rachel Zoffness

PC 487 The High Street

They’re in your face, aren’t they, the boarded-up shop fronts and the ‘for sale’ signs that litter our ‘High Street’. Doorways once a busy entry and exit point now where the sadly homeless can doss down. A sign of urban decay if ever there was one; and in the back of my mind the images of Detroit, once home to the United States’ automotive industry and now just one of many rusting and run-down areas. So, what’s the new normal?

Living in Brighton & Hove we have examples of every sort of commercial enterprise, and some are not surviving. It doesn’t require a degree in economics to understand that the financial pressures of high Business Rates, levied by the local council, and unstainable increases in rent from absent landlords are just two of the factors. Many retailers argue that the current rates systems unfairly penalise physical stores compared with online retailers. Another factor will simply be the rising costs of running a business, like those of energy, rents, and minimum wage hikes.

But the change in the way we buy goods, from going into a physical store to logging onto a website, ordering what we want and having it delivered home or to the office, is irreversible. Those who clamour for the authorities to ‘Bring back the High Street’ have to realise it will not have the same ‘pre-internet shopping’ look.

Five minutes from where I live, out of choice in a town rather than in the countryside where the whole issue is completely different, I found:

The Flower Stall’s tucked into an outside corner of a deconsecrated church, itself another change to the urban look. You can buy flowers on-line, for instance from Freddie’s Flowers, but particularly for the impulse purchase, this is great.

Our dentist’s practice is across the road; you cannot have a dental checkup online! They are around the corner from Ben, an acupuncturist we use; he charges 50% more for an online session.

Along Church Road we find a traditional butcher, Canham & Sons, which does a roaring trade, both for its meat and poultry products, and at lunchtime for its pies, pasties and sausage rolls. For vegans the all-invasive smell of meat means giving it a wide berth.

A private doctors’ practice (The Hove Practice) is popular with those finding getting a GP’s appointment difficult and wanting medical advice in a day or so.

It sits opposite the Osbon Pharmacy, so those needing a prescription can simply walked across Church Road.

Delicate discussions about the choice of a coffin, flowers and other funeral arrangements just cannot be conducted online, so Attree & Kent, part of CPJ Field, is an essential part of our High Street. This company was established in 1690 and has been run by the Field family for 10 generations. There is no shortage of customers!

Another generational story is Timpson where you talk to Adam, get another set of keys cut, impossible online: a new sole for your favourite shoes or a passport photo needed in a hurry. Online? Nah!

When the family’s been to stay, a laundry service is essential and Essame’s Bubbles provides just that, although it would benefit from a ‘u’ and a ‘r’!

But the new-look High Street is personified by pedestrianised, 200m long, George Street.

Gail’s sits at the bottom, the first of many bakery and coffee shops – a sign of what the public want, if they can afford the cost of a Mocha or Latte.

And if you don’t want something or need some cash to tide you over until payday, go to the pawnbrokers.

Yes! Yes! I know, you can read an e-book, or you can order books from many online stores, but isn’t there something very grounding, just browsing in a bookshop like Waterstones, picking up a paperback, attracted enough by its cover to read a review??

I don’t get my nails ‘done’, well, not yet, but understand the current fashion ….. and here’s another service you can’t do online. But do we need so many? In George Street alone there are eight!

Whilst you can buy non-prescription glasses online, as I did through ThinOptics for some standard, extremely lightweight, reading glasses, you need to see a real optician to have your eyes regularly checked.

My love/hate with individual tattoos continues. When I was in the Army there was a snobbery about tattoos, officers never dreaming of having one, seeing them as very working class. Often if a senior Non-commissioned Officer was elevated to some commissioned rank, they invariably tried to remove any visible tattoos they had; removing tattoos has apparently got easier. I sense some people get them when drunk or under peer pressure and years later wish they hadn’t. In 2026 Brighton & Hove the rapid increase in their popularity is evident, although some I find repulsive and not in the least attractive; the black ‘sleeve’ tattoo is one.

I used to smoke, even when I knew that there was a causal link between cigarettes and lung cancer. My last cigarette was in March 1994 and whilst I still remember the delight of that first ‘drag’, I remain repulsed by someone else’s cigarette smoke and the reek of it on clothes, curtains and carpets. Vaping seems another world, 95% less harmful than smoking tobacco;100 puffs a day is the equivalent of smoking 7-10 cigarettes a day. Even so not healthy! George Street has three vape shops, most are empty of customers; one wonders if they are simply set up to launder the proceeds of criminal activity.

In addition to the three vape stores and eight nail bars, George Street has 5 charity outlets, for example Barnardo’s and the RSCPA, 8 phone shops and 14 cafes ….. and there are only 88 shopfronts in the whole street! The new High Street? Well, there is a bank branch!

Richard 17th April 2026

Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

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PS Regular readers please note next week’s postcard will not be in the post-box until late Saturday afternoon – assuming there’s a collection!

PC 486 Hope Revisited

I got a WhatsApp from Mo to say her mother had had a rather nasty lung infection which developed into pneumonia and that she had died peacefully in her sleep. I offered the normal platitudes about how good to go without some awful illness, either physical like cancer or mental like dementia, how without her, her own life wouldn’t have existed but understood how much Mo would miss her. We agreed to meet in The Hope Café last Wednesday afternoon.

Josh is acting as the barista and we exchange inconsequential chat while he prepares my double espresso. I see Mo sitting at her favourite table and go and join her. We chat about the loss of one’s last parent, how now there’s no one in the family older than her and how she thought her mother had lived a good life, not merely existed. One of the facts of our existence is the older we get we recognise the thinning out of our friends and family. My brother had recently said goodbye to a very close ex-RN colleague, who had been in his term at Her Majesty’s Royal Naval College Dartmouth. I wrote: “As we age, our friends will gradually slip away – just hope we’re here to say: ‘thanks for your friendship’.”

Mo’s about to say something when her mobile rings. She looks down at the number, recognises it, says: “I need to take this, sorry; it’s the undertaker.” I quickly say, “I’ll let you have some privacy” and, without letting her protest, pick up my cup and move to another table, just as Sami enters.  

Hi! Richard. Let me get an Americano and I’ll come and join you.”

Armed with his coffee, and a small plate of his favourite biscuits, he comes and sits down.

“Enjoyed your postcard about The Shipping Forecast (PC 483) Richard; for someone who’s never sailed, really interesting!”

“Richard Coles annoyed me a little, the ‘pedantic’ me I mean! When he was messing about in yachts off Cowes in his ‘Wight’ episode, he kept referring to the left and right of the boat, when I felt he could have made a little effort and used the well-known port and starboard.”

“He didn’t use ‘pointy bit’ for the ‘bow’ did he?”

“No! But he didn’t use ‘bow’ either, preferring ‘the front end’! Agh! Having not listened to the actual broadcast of the Shipping Forecast for a long time, I had a nostalgic listen the other day. You remember that Finisterre, an area of some 90,000 sq miles northwest of Cape Finisterre in Spain, was renamed Fitzroy? Well, in the forecast I heard, they split it into North and South Fitzroy. Maybe because it’s so large.”

“Did you get more comments than usual? I sense it was quite educational for some; certainly for me.”

“No, not really! Explorer 82 said: ‘A nice one’ but my brother, who lives on the coast in Weymouth, so sea area ‘Portland’, and who’s been suffering from a lingering chest infection sent this: “….. I have Connelly’s book and others including Meg Clothier’s The Shipping Forecast. Meanwhile – “General synopsis: deep low 360 (Note 1) Portland 6 filling slowly. Area forecasts …… Dover, Wight, Portland: gales of laughter in abeyance, fair I suppose, RSV brain fog lifting.”

Mo seems to have finished her call, comes over to tell us she needs to go and see him, the undertaker that is, and waves goodbye.

“Now, where were we? Oh! Yes, I was going to scream at the lack of common sense these days.

“Tell me more …..”

“The ‘i360 report’ by the Brighton & Hove City council explored what went wrong with the i360, the observation tower project that left the city writing off over £52million …… with no one held responsible. Last week’s report laid bare a basic problem; no ‘common sense’ checks. To sell the project, visitor numbers were estimated to be 700,000 per year. A child could do the maths: open 365 days a year, for an 8-hour day the attraction would need 239 per hour for every hour of the working day, seven days a week, even if it was raining or foggy. The capsule has a maximum capacity of 200 with about one trip per hour so it wasn’t realistically possible. No one dared to challenge the promoters; no one applied common sense.”

“That’s crazy, isn’t it. Can’t believe that figure of 700,000 wasn’t challenged. How many went up and down?”

“In the first year some 500,000 but it then averaged out around 270,000 per year. No one’s been held responsible and the city ratepayers are paying £2million a year in debt repayment.”

“I don’t think there’s a mechanism for holding leaders of public organisations financially accountable for the occasional cock-up. It would be a little like asking turkeys to vote for Christmas! On a different topic, you know how it is, when you see people away from where you normally see them and you think: “I sort of recognise them?” but can’t place them.”

“Oh! Yes! Context is everything.”

“On Wandsworth Common many years ago, I was walking my Labrador Tom and someone said: “Hi! Richard”. I seriously thought ‘who’s he?’, just couldn’t place him, then I realised it was Brian from Dove’s the local butcher, who always prepared my weekly pork chop wearing his blue-and-white striped apron!!! I was reminded of this the other day when we were rushing for the bus to get to yoga and passed a small group chatting and enjoying some coffee in the Spring sunshine. They shouted: ‘morning Celina’ and waved. Just couldn’t place them and it wasn’t until we got onto the bus that Celina said: “Didn’t you recognise Dr Simon, Martha the receptionist and the other doctors from The Hove Practice?”

“Ha! Ha! Hey, need to get going Richard. See you soon?”

“Off to Brazil next week so when we get back. Bye!”

Richard 10th April 2026

Hove

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Note 1 The number here refers to the barometric pressure. A ‘low’ pressure system is normally below 1000mb. The lowest ever recorded was 870mb measured in the eye of Super Typhoon Tip in the Pacific Ocean on 12th October 1979 ………….. I mentioned in my piece that in low pressure systems the wind spins counterclockwise. I could have added it’s the reverse in the southern hemisphere, due to the Coriolis effect.

PC 485 Live more? Live less?

There is something rather dictatorial about the title of this week’s postcard, but it was prompted by one of the doctors at The Hove Practice on Church Road, Dr Ellie Deane-Bowers. We were chatting about the after-effects of major surgery, and I recounted my conversation with Professor Hugh Perry, Emeritus Professor of Experimental Neuropathology at the University of Southampton, who had worked with Celina’s father in Rio de Janeiro. We had lunch with him and his wife Jess in May 2024 (See PC 388 Lymington) and, having never met me before, he asked for my ‘potted history’; where I was born, what I had done etc.

I was born in Bath (blah blah) ……. In 2013 I had a triple heart bypass …..”. Hugh took a step backwards and looked at me anew. It seems that most people, 85% (?), become rather risk-averse, withdrawn from full-on activities, after major surgery. I had met a few of them in the Moulsecomb Leisure Centre on the east side of Brighton, where I went for a series of rehabilitation sessions after my bypass. “Hey! Take it easy; you’re sweating” said one of my fellow participants! He clearly was in that 85% category. There was no reason from a physical point of view to take it easy; as Jonathan Hyde my heart surgeon said: ‘good for 30 years’. So, it’s purely mental, the development of habits that restrict, that close one down, that make you live less than you’re physically capable of.

I asked a fellow yogi, Ian, his take on why we stop attempting something. “Fear!” was his immediate response and he promised to expand this idea when I asked: “Fear of what?”

Rather reflected what Marianne Williamson had written (See PC 205 First Steps): “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. ….. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Marianne suggests we fear our own power, our own innate ability to do something if we wish to. Certainly, the fear of failure is a possibility. We all know the apocryphal story of Thomas Edison who tried 99 times to make a light bulb filament burn brightly, before the 100th attempt that worked. Another American, George Washington, claimed ‘Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses,’ so the failure is self-inflicted through lack of accountability rather than lack of ability.

How do you know you can’t do something unless you try it? Four years ago, I wrote a postcard titled ‘Why You Should Try Something Different …. Ceroc?’ (PC 192 from August 2020). Maybe we don’t try things, in this case Ceroc, aka Modern Jive, because we’re worried what others will think?

The late Ken Robinson’s life’s work (PC 195) was to encourage individuals to find the one element that makes them tick, makes them want to get up and grab life, to live more. Please, if you haven’t already, read his book ‘The Element’. Isn’t everyone capable of being a writer, a musician, businessperson, sportsperson, or doing any of the myriad of things humans do? Some will be more successful at something than others – so we need to find our own personal element or elements.  

Of course, someone might have been so traumatised by some experience that they carry that burden, that trauma with them every day, every week; the trauma acts as an anchor and prevents present and future action. The suggestion in Timeline Therapy is that we attach emotions of fear, sadness, anger and guilt to past events and that we wear these emotions in the present. There was a good line in some TV drama: “Whatever darkness you’re hiding, it’s written all over your face.” So, to ‘live more’ we need, through therapy, to detach these unwanted emotions from our past. Makes sense, I think; no one really wants to ‘live less’, surely?

I was talking to a clinical psychologist the other day; at some point in the conversation, I told him of the sudden death of a friend’s sister at the age of 59. Incidentally this tragedy had reminded me of Victoria, the sister of a good friend, who had died aged just 60 (See PC 22 Life is Uncertain).  It’s always interesting to hear people’s reactions, but I was shocked by his: “Illness and death stalk us always”. Maybe it’s true but it’s so morbid, would not be my immediate response to someone’s personal tragedy.

A recent Times article about lust and libido by Jean-Claude Chalmet, a psychotherapist, raised many interesting issues, but one particularly relevant for this postcard. Under a sub-title ‘….. but do look after yourself and your body’, he writes: “I notice among my clients, and particularly in men, that if they let themselves go physically, they also let go of their needs and desires. It’s often because there’s been a realisation in midlife that they haven’t lived, they’ve merely existed. They’ve had an unfulfilling career, a marriage that has become operational (sic). Now, learning to live looks arduous and disinterest becomes their armour because they think it’s too late. This bitterness and ‘beer belly’ combination kills libido in a couple.” The message is clear; stop existing, start living.

Ian again: “Is fear the biggest inhibitor or the biggest motivator? If something scares the living daylights out of you, if you’re brave enough to pursue it, it can give you the biggest reward and often the biggest opportunity to develop as a person.” There will always be uncertainty in life, whether it’s moving up to a new school, finding your feet in university, earning money and growing as a person, developing relationships, parenting, coping with the loss of loved ones, whatever, that’s a given.

And Ian reminded me that we are born with only two innate hard-wired fears designed for survival, the fear of falling and the fear of loud noise. These instinctive responses instantly trigger the fight-or-flight mechanism!

I will continue these themes in a future postcard.

Richard 3rd April 2026

Hove

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PC 484 Five Days in May (2)

Continued …..

On Saturday 23rd April 1983 (St George’s Day) I took a call at home from the Ministry of Defence Duty Officer in London, asking about using SAM systems for the defence of the British contingent to the UN’s MNFIL in Beirut. Lebanon was in the grip of a nasty civil war, with an UN-imposed multinational force trying to bring about peace. Before midnight the following day I am on a C130 Hercules flying out of RAF Lyneham to Cyprus; I share the huge aircraft hold with an aircraft engine – I am the only passenger. You can read all about it in PC 183 Beirut June 2020; I was back in Bulford two days later!

I made two trips to Belize, to visit my soldiers and to facilitate some live missile firing off one of the uninhabited offshore cayes (local name for islands).

We flew out to the caye by helicopter, accompanied by a 81mm mortar section from the roulement infantry battalion, who provided the targets – a bunch of phosphorus hanging below a little parachute, normally used to illuminate the battlefield.

When not swotting away the mosquitoes, we took advantage of the crystal clear and warm water. The seabed was covered with large shells; I brought two home! On my first trip to Belize, I had gone down to the southern British military base in Toledo District; I think it was called Camp Riddeau. My troop sergeant had organised a night deep in the jungle, something I had never experienced. We made the A-frame supports for our hammocks, cooked some supper and listened to the insects and animals that make it their home. Night comes early in the jungle, and it was noisy, wet, extremely humid and hot. (Note 1)

I had some down-time during my time, accommodated in the RAF Officers Mess, and remember reading John Fowles’ Daniel Martin. Today, Wikipedia says “it follows the life of the eponymous protagonist, using both first and third person voices, whilst employing a variety of literary techniques such as multiple narratives and flashback.” I wished I’d had Wikipedia back in 1983. I struggled with the first third, almost gave up, then understood it, devoured the remaining two-thirds and started at the beginning again, to reread that incomprehensible first section!! John Fowles had written The Magus and of course The French Lieutenant’s Woman and remains one of my favourite authors.

In December 1982 E Troop soldiers who had taken part in the Falkland’s War were presented with their campaign medals by the Deputy Fortress Commander of Gibraltar. (See photograph) I returned to The Rock in 1984 with the whole battery (ie less the Belize troop) for some adventurous training and to take part in the Gibraltar Half Marathon. Flying into Gibraltar is always interesting. The airport lies on the north of the massive vertical rockface and in certain weather conditions it’s a very turbulent area. In my first visit in a RAF C130 we went around twice, succeeding on the third attempt with a very hard landing.

At the very top of the Rock with WO2 Black and Lt Richard Dare

After Belize, Beirut and Gibraltar, you might think that Manorbier, to the west of Tenby, the Brecon Beacons, both in South Wales, and Otterburn in the Northumberland National Park, were rather tame. But each in their own way added to one’s appreciation of the United Kingdom landscape. We had regular ‘live firing camps’ at Manorbier, staying in the Sennybridge training camp, used the wonderful Brecon Beacons for strenuous exercises and carried out some troop training up in Otterburn. It was here for five days in May 1984 that I had the largest component of Lloyds Company together during my two-and-a-half-year tour; Lieutenant Paul Goad was on a course and the Belize troop of 14 wasn’t there!

I always sought to bringing out the best of my soldiers, testing their ability where necessary, promoting them when they earned it, encouraging them to apply for external roles, even if it meant they were posted away. The commanding officer, Lieutenant Colonel Ian Forward, noted in my annual confidential report: “He never sought to hoard his assets, willing to share his carefully nurtured talent across the board.” And, of course, it was personally satisfying when soldiers grew and matured before my eyes.

But not everyone grows! When I took over my battery I rapidly sensed that one of my sergeants, let’s call him Sergeant Smith, had been promoted (Note 2) above his ability; he wasn’t happy and didn’t seem to enjoy his job. After a chat, I arranged a couple of training exercises where he had ample opportunity to show his capabilities. He failed miserably, so he was reduced back to Bombadier and was found another position in another unit, one more suited to his abilities. He wrote later saying how happy he was. We see it in civilian life, individuals ‘promoted’ into roles they’re not suited to, not able to fulfil. I much prefer round pegs in round holes!

At one of the weekly Commanding Officer’s conferences of 1983, it was suggested we should hold a Summer Ball in the Officers’ Mess. Feeling that the ball I had organised in Lippstadt in 1972 had been a success, I volunteered, formed a committee, doled out responsibilities and set about making it happen.

I decided that the theme should be ‘After The Theatre’, when one might have drifted around, finding different places to eat and maybe a nightclub or two to dance in. It was a great success, so much so that both the Commanding Officer and adjutant wrote letters in appreciation. The latter’s started:

And the men who made the two and a half years I had in command of 43 Air Defence Battery (Lloyd’s Company) RA fun and rewarding are here, in this photograph, my officers, Warrant Officers and senior non-commissioned officers outside the training wing at Sennybridge Camp in South Wales.

Richard 27th March 2026

Hove

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Note 1 My Stepfather, Philip Thomson-Walker, as a Captain in SOE during World War 2, spent months in the Malayan jungle in Force 136 fighting the Japanese.

Note 2 Normally on probation for six months, this man had been on probation for 15 months. No one had ‘grasped the nettle’!

PC 481 Hope in The Hope

Hadn’t said farewell to Mo for too long before Sami poked his head around the door, saw me and made his way over to my table.

“Do you want another coffee, Richard? Double espresso?”

“Hey Sami! Good to see you: yes please!”

Sami’s not one to engage in too much small talk, wanting instead to explore his opinions and ideas, as well as keeping me abreast of the latest developments of the continuing saga of the Post Office scandal, of which he was a real victim. He’s personally got over it, taken an acceptable offer of compensation, and is rebuilding his life with his new partner Lisa. (See PC 335 ‘Lisa Wallace – My story’ May 2023 (Ed: This is interesting!))

“You saw that Betty Brown, the 92-year-old former subpostmistress from County Durham, was appointed an OBE in last December’s New Year Honours list? It took her twenty-two years to secure justice for herself and her late husband; lives destroyed!

The scandal’s no longer headline news but everyone’s eagerly awaiting the outcome of the police investigation to see who will be charged.”

“You think that will ever happen? These things have a habit of festering for so long, with prevarication and obscuration, that many on both sides will have died and someone will say: ‘What’s the point?’. It’s like the Infected Blood Scandal (see PC 392 Hope Continues (June 2024) and PC 420 Contentious Issues in the UK for 2025 (January 2025).)”  

“You’re becoming cynical as you get older Richard! Incidentally not sure what’s your view but we seem to have got our knickers in a twist when it comes to a person’s background, heritage and ancestry. Being curious, I am often asking new people I meet what they do and, frankly, if they are a person of colour as I am, where they’re from.” (Note 1)

“Do you remember about three years there was a hoo-hah at some Buckingham Palace reception when Lady Susan Someone asked a delegate, Charity founder Ngozi Fulami, where she was from, and not happy with the answer “I was born in the UK”, asked: “No! Where are you really from?”

“What’s the issue? I met a lovely couple of junior doctors many years ago, both the result of mixed marriages, and asked the chap, who looked like me, Eurasian, where he was from. “Nottingham!” and I so nearly asked, for no other reason than curiosity: “No! Where were you from originally?” but never did!

“A Gunner friend is in the process of penning his autobiography, not for public consumption but for his grandchildren. He let me read a couple of drafts of some parts and I know his intended audience will be fascinated. He thought I was doing the same, sort-of, writing of my life’s experiences in my weekly postcards. That hadn’t occurred to me, that I was writing my own autobiography, albeit in instalments and interspersed with contemporary observations and thoughts. Hey Ho!”

“Your weekly postcards Richard ….. I enjoy most of them ……..”

“Someone the other day told me they don’t have time which, given that they are a mere 5-minute read, is a sad reflection of modern life. I get more ‘likes’ and comments for some than others. The one that keeps surfacing is PC 461 “Bumped into Sami!” from October 2025 ……”

“Ha! I remember, we had a coffee in Gail’s and chewed the fat upstairs, mainly about weight-loss drugs as a way of tackling obesity. Sorry for the unintended pun! I imagine you saw that BBC report that GP Surgeries in England are to be paid an average of £3000 a year in bonuses to prescribe weight loss drugs?? (Note 2) Seriously not the way to go; get a bonus for everyone who signs up to some exercise programme!! But what else to you do to keep the brain from going to mush, apart from your beloved hot yoga?”

“Mmm! I do the daily Sudoku puzzles in The Times and occasionally paint something. Look (reaching for my iPad) ….. the composition on the right for Amber House’s communal hall is new, linked to another from some years ago by three little squares.

and by our internal apartment door, four little canvases …..

“I like both, a lot!”

Two other observations, Sami. Firstly, we had to go to the cremation of a dear friend the other day. She’d chosen some songs by Neil Diamond, Rod Stewart and Tina Turner, so the tone was as light-hearted as these things can be.  The service was conducted by Aileen Smart, who needed some reading glasses to read the tribute. The frames themselves were enormous, obviously quite heavy and they gradually slipped down her nose. As everyone would, she simply pushed them back up the bridge, only for gravity to impose itself once again and the whole action was repeated. Once or twice …… but I became mesmerised as her habit continued and my attention drifted from what she was saying!

The other concerned our yoga studio, where we had a new student the other week. If I can, I try to pass on a couple of bits of advice before they start: breathe through your nose, not your mouth and don’t drink water during class if you can help it. His reply to the latter was: “Ramadan started yesterday evening (17th February) and I can’t drink until sunset, so won’t be a problem.” This conversation was on the first day of Lent in the Christian calendar (18th February this year) so then I got into a discussion with myself about how it was apposite that devout Christians would be foregoing goodies for 40 days, at the same time as Muslims would be fasting for 28. My ignorance about the finer details of Islam prompted a Google search. I knew the dates of Ramadan progressed earlier each year but didn’t know by how much – it’s 11 days. Ramadan is the 9th month of the Islamic calendar, which is itself based on the cycles of the moon.

“Well! Well! Well! Richard. Thank you!”

Richard 6th March 2026

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Note 1 Sami’s mother was English and father Indian, so he’s classified as Eurasian.

Note 2 Of course very overweight people will eventually cost the NHS a great deal of money, so I assume this is the reason for encouraging them to take a weight-loss drug.

PC 480 More Hope News

Mo and I sit down with our individual coffees for a catch up; it’s been a while and I feel sure there’s much to chat about.

“You know my mother’s in Southwick, Richard, in one of those retirement places which offers everything those of a certain age need, without taking away anyone’s individuality?

“Yes; She’s got her own flat, hasn’t she? Am I right, she has become obsessed with the Assisted Dying Bill?”

“I suppose it’s bound to be on everyone’s lips, with the worriers wondering whether their offspring will use it to hasten their departure and those more sanguine thinking it’s needed for those with life-limiting conditions. The ‘Terminally Ill Adults (End of Life) Bill’, as it’s officially called, is currently at the Committee stage in the House of Lords. (See PS) But we had a bit of a scare last month; her doctor found she’d developed an infection that had created more fluid than normal around her heart. It’s called Pericardial Effusion and the fluid squeezes the heart muscle, so it needs to be drained, slowly.”

“All good now?”

“Yes. Just needs to take some antibiotics for a couple of weeks to clear the infection.”

“Hearts seem to be on everyone’s lips. You’ll remember before Christmas, a yoga chum’s sister, aged 59, had gone to bed early and her husband had found her dead before midnight? Well, our masseuse had a very good friend who had a fatal heart attack last month at 62, then last week her nephew had a heart attack, went into a coma and was allowed to die; he was 39! Now news of your mother, although pleased her heart issue was easily dealt with.”

“God, that sounds awful. I guess the message is, if in doubt about any ache or pain around your heart, go and get it checked – NOW! And how’s your daughter, Richard?”

“Half term last week and I suspect that was a real relief; a hard first half. In addition to her full-on teaching role and head of year, personally she’d become somewhat deficient in iron, a vital chemical for our bodies to function at 100%. She had to have two iron infusions, a fortnight apart ….. and suffered a rather swollen tongue for a few hours afterwards. A little investigation says this is a common reaction.”

“If it had been me, I would have panicked!!”

“For me, it brought back a memory from a different era when, during the long summer holidays, my brother and I found ourselves playing cricket near home in Balcombe. My own cricket experience was from a preparatory school when, despite being hopeless at either batting, bowling or fielding, so every aspect of the game (!) I realised the team needed someone to keep score. And there was the added attraction of the after-match cream teas!

Two scratch teams came together using the pitch of a local school. Apart from the fact it was a glorious summer’s day, I remember little of the cricket. But during the tea, I hadn’t realised a bee had landed on the cream éclair I was about to stuff into my mouth. The last action of its short life was to sting my tongue. One’s body reacts to certain chemicals quickly and my tongue rapidly grew in size! Someone recognised this as a Medical Emergency and called an ambulance. I obviously survived …… but the memory of that jab of its barbed stinger into my tongue remains to this day.” 

“You wrote in your last postcard about The Hope Café (PC 475 New Year in The Hope 23 January) that you were curious the Waitrose produce-picker had chosen Pomegranate seeds as a substitute for an order of Red Currents. I read that the recent storms in Southern Europe and North Africa have created a potential dearth in the UK of soft fruit like raspberries (Note 1), strawberries, blackberries, and blue berries. We have got used to being able to buy them all the year around, haven’t we – even if we accept that the blueberries in winter come from Peru!”

“Whenever I hear about berries I remember the delightful story about the colour of the mulberry.”

“The colour of the mulberry?”

“I wrote about it in PC 242 ‘What is This Thing Called Love? (1)’ (August 2021). In summary Thisbe has found her lover Pyramus’ body next to a white Mulberry bush, covered in his blood. Her heart broken, Thisbe kills herself with the same sword that Pyramus had used. The gods are so moved that the colour of the Mulberry fruit is forever changed to blood red!”

“Ah! That’s such a nice story! I think, like you Richard, I generally have the radio station Classic FM murmuring on in the background at home. A commercial station, its revenue comes from advertising. Having read PC 478 Eating Habits (13 February 2026) I have become a little more aware of what I am eating! Recently Classic FM was broadcasting an advertisement for Nestle’s Shredded Wheat.

 The voiceover says: “I’ve been asked to read out the ingredients.” Of course, these days we are led to expect lots of ‘E’ numbers, flavourings and colourings, so it is a pleasant surprise when she continues: “Whole grain wheat.” Then there’s a pause and she comes on again: “That’s it, whole grain wheat. Nothing else.”

And that’s what the box shows ……. plus the disclaimer about nuts (!), although it this case Peanuts seem to be in a category of their own (?)”

“You mentioning Classic FM reminds me! A couple of weeks ago I was scanning The Times at breakfast. Having learned to play the trumpet at school I was attracted to the obituary of John Wallace CBE, whose career as a trumpeter took him all over the world with his renowned brass group The Wallace Collection, which he’d formed in 1986. In a lovely twist, as I was reading of his career, Classic FM was broadcasting Haydn’s famous Trumpet Concerto in E flat, the Andante movement of which I played for my audition for the National Youth Orchestra. (See PPS)”

“Need to rush, Richard. Lovely to chat ….. see yer!”

Richard 27th February 2026

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PS Yesterday the Government of Jersey passed its own ‘Assisted Dying Bill’ and that will need Royal Assent; probable within 18 months. The Isle of Man’s bill is still awaiting Royal Assent. It’s likely that England & Wales’s own Assisted Dying Bill will fail due to lack of time. It is a Private Member’s Bill so does not have the Government’s support.

PPS Wasn’t successful! I could play something I had practised but the sight-reading test was a nightmare.

Note 1 To make the point, in this morning’s Waitrose online order, Raspberries have been substituted by …… Strawberries!!

PC 472 Shorts

The title might have given the impression I was going to scribble about shorts, ie short trousers ….. maybe I should, given that I wore shorts at school until I was 18 …….

Dauntsey’s School First Orchestra circa 1964

…. but I’m not! Those who practise hot yoga in the Middle Street studio are an interesting group, from diverse backgrounds and professions, the young and those slightly older. Some of the regulars have become good friends, others prefer to drop in, practise, and leave, without any interaction; each to their own!

Sophie is an ‘award-winning actor, writer and film producer who works professionally under the name Cerys Knighton’. (See PC 342 Relationships IRL July 2023). She’s a graduate of the National Film and Television School and recently her short film ‘I’m Not Brilliant’ was shown as part of Brighton’s Film Festival in The Trinity Chapel on Duke Street in the centre of the city.

The chapel was built in 1817 by Thomas Kemp for his Nonconformist congregation, underwent several alterations during the C19th, and closed in 1984 due to declining numbers. In keeping with a lot of non-conformist places of worship, around three sides it has a large gallery on its first floor. The Fabrica Art Gallery made the chapel its home in 1996 and it was Fabrica which laid on the ‘Short Film Festival’.

I wouldn’t regard myself as a ‘Film Buff’, enjoy mainstream films as much as anyone, but sense our attendance at the local Odeon cinema has declined over the years. Supporting friends in their professional careers is important to me, so we went along to the early-evening screening of Sophie’s and other ‘short’ films; anything under 40 minutes is considered ‘short’. Hers was sixth on the list. The first was more like a dirge; atmospheric cliff-top images of Guernsey for 17 minutes, interspersed with a red-bearded individual who wandered around with a tattered old book. I have a habit of falling asleep in dark, warm places, so maybe I missed the whole point!

The next film was about a surprise birthday party, the subject entering a doorway and confronted by ‘friends and family’, whom you heard but didn’t see. She kept protesting that she didn’t do birthday parties and then seemed to get sprayed with blood ……! Again, the point was completely lost on me; the audience gave it desultory applause for some 4 seconds, so maybe I wasn’t alone. There was a short film, almost a documentary, about individuals who volunteered on a hospital radio. It had ‘real’ people not actors but again its point was lost – on me! One interesting film showed a series of cartoons about a boy going to Boarding School, the voice-over suggesting he felt abandoned and unloved. The choice of dull colours, browns and greys, added to the sense of despair. A clever way of portraying a difficult and possibly traumatic subject.

At the beginning of my commissioned Army service, I won a prize for being the best/worst/punctual/late/immaculate/scruffy – interested/ disinterested/capable/incapable young officer – it was a long time ago!! The award came with a cheque for £50 (about a month’s pay!) – to be spent on ‘sports equipment’.  Did I need another Squash racket? I didn’t play cricket so no need for a new bat, I played Rugby but didn’t need to buy a ball: I was at a loss! Eventually I persuaded the committee that I would seriously benefit from buying a Super 8 Cine Camera and projector; it was a stretch but ultimately successful. I used it for almost ten years before buying a Ftb Canon 50mm still camera.

A still from one of the many hours of ‘sailing trips’ Super 8 Cine film; the late James Hodges skippering a yacht returning from the Channel Islands.

Given that two aspects of my life then, offshore sailing and my Royal Artillery service, were full of photogenic opportunities, it was inevitable I ended up with hours of 8mm cine film, spliced together when necessary. Life moved on; I transferred the films I wanted to keep to VHS video tape …… then onto CDs. Now I don’t have a dedicated CD player …….

I was reminded of my library of Super 8 film by the fifth ‘short’ showing, a mishmash of family cine film reels spliced together in some incoherent way. I am sure the more critical members of the audience would have gained something by watching all 9 minutes, but I didn’t include myself in that group.

And then we got to our ‘Main Event’, Sophie’s film ‘I’m Not Brilliant’, written by her and directed by Julian Kerridge.

Sophie plays Donna, an overly keen carer of Elsie, an elderly woman wanting to end her life. Little flashes of very dark humour, like Elsie going up the stairs with an electrical toaster saying: ‘Think I’ll go and have a bath’ made me smile, as did the confusion about the location of Dignitas as one of the options – Sweden? Elsie is determined to spend any extra cash she has and not let her ungrateful daughter get her hands on it, so they depart for the local pub. There they bump into a Hen Night, to which Donna thought she should have been invited. And there was a delightful twist at the end to make you smile with relief. This short film got the loudest round of applause of the evening, not because Sophie had packed the audience with friends and supporters but because it was a rounded, sensible and watchable film.

After an interval, another collection of ‘shorts’ and another audience. We drifted out of the old chapel, into the cool evening air and made our way home. These viewings are the bedrock of the cinematic industry and the development of its creatives, without whom we couldn’t sit back in Screen 4 with the tub of popcorn and escape into a different world. No doubt we will read about some of the makers of and participants in these short films in the years to come, as they grow, experience and are recognised for their art.

Richard 2nd January 2026

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PC 471 Another Tale  

Most of us are too busy to read much at this time of the year, so here’s something I wrote last year, which is just another tale. And if you don’t read it that doesn’t matter either!

“I had only the vaguest of directions, in the form of a land survey map and some handwritten notes from the solicitors, but as I neared what I thought was about my destination, I could sense my heart beginning to beat faster, the excitement palpable; I pulled into the verge. Somewhere down this deserted country road, 100 miles in from the coast north of Sydney, was a five-barred gate. Sure enough 50 metres away there was an old wooden gate, hanging at an odd angle from a large timber post, rather unkempt and unloved; across the top bar was the name, “Standby”, burned into the wood by an untrained hand. A track led through the gums and over a small hillock; clearly no one had travelled this way for a while, so thick was the red dust and the absence of tyre tracks.

So much had happened since I had received that letter from Wilcock & Brown, a firm of solicitors in Sydney, in London two months before, informing me that a long-lost relative had left me a station in New South Wales. Being rather vague about the family tree, I had rung my grandfather, to see if he could enlighten me.

Come down and see me, dear boy”, more an order than an invitation! A few days later we had had sat around the coffee table in his drawing room, doing a cursory search of some dusty albums and box files. He’d told me how James Ruse, his great great grand-father’s half-brother, had been one of the first European settlers and the first to be deeded land in Australia, thirty acres at Parramatta, west of Sydney. James had prospered and had bought tracts of land as future investments. One was far north of Sydney, which he had let to a fellow settler, who had gradually built up a sizeable holding. Over the years my grandfather had rather lost touch with his extended family relatives in Australia and had no clue as to how the station had come to be left to me.

Grandpa’s parting comment still rang in my ears: “Why don’t you go and have a look? You have nothing to lose, it could be a wonderful adventure and you can come back and tell me all about it.”

Certainly, I had to take a look, if only out of curiosity, but I had no experience of running anything bigger than my back garden, the size of postage stamp, in South London, so I would probably sell the station. After the long flight to Sydney and a few days to get over the jetlag, here I was, north of Newcastle. I remember smiling as I passed a sign on the road to Booti Booti, without knowing how it came to be so named and how I would become intimately involved with those words. Then I spied ‘Standby’ on that gate.

At the top of a rise in the track I caught a glimpse of buildings in the distance, half hidden by gums, with a water tower and fences that formed cattle pens. The nearer I got, details of the main house became clearer, classic colonial ranch style, with a large overhanging roof and wide verandas at both ground and first floor level. I had arranged to meet the man who had been looking after Standby since my relative had died, at noon. It was almost that time now, judging by the position of the sun, burning down from the cloudless sky, and yet there appeared to be no one around. 

I parked my car in the shade of a large barn, walked across to the main house and up the steps to the front door, which opened to my push. Inside, dust lay on everything, on the furniture, across the floors and the windows; my finger ran across the table in the dining room, underneath the dust the surface of a lovingly polished mahogany table, obviously brought out from England many years before. The interior was cool and pleasantly laid out, with the main rooms off the central corridor, and the kitchen at the far end.

I was just about to explore the first floor when steps sounded on the veranda. Framed in the doorway was the slender frame of a woman, a broad-brimmed hat on her head, bare arms and legs, and a flowing skirt; in her right hand was a basket. The strong sunlight made it difficult to see any detail of her face and I walked back to the front door to introduce myself.

Good afternoon”, I said, “my name’s Robert Harrison; you are?”

As I came closer, I could see she was probably in her late twenties, her skin the colour of milky coffee with large soulful eyes and a broad smile.

“G’day, I’m Clarissa; I am Winston’s daughter.”

Ah! Yes. Winston was the chap who was looking after the station. She told me he’d been delayed with some cattle about an hour’s ride away.

Would you like some lunch? I’ve got some cheese and mangoes, and a bottle of beer. Why don’t you sit on the veranda and I will get it.” Without waiting for a reply, she brushed past me and headed for the kitchen. 

I sat in the shade, tasted the most delicious goat’s cheese, slurped my way through a couple of mangoes and quenched my thirst with the beer. Winston arrived about an hour later, riding into the yard on a rather rough looking black mare, accompanied by a cloud of reddish dust. We introduced ourselves and sat on the veranda whilst Winston told me something of the ranch. A hundred thousand acres of cattle station was mine if I wanted it. He suggested that the best way to see what Standby consisted of was to ride the land. He startled me as he yelled at Clarissa to saddle up a horse, but soon we were riding out of the station yard and up the hill to the east. It was late afternoon, the heat of the sun was easier now, and the kangaroos were coming down to the water holes to take their first drink and nibble the short grass. I looked back at the house, already deciding that here was a place I could live. The comparisons with England were few, it was an exciting idea and, although I knew nothing about cattle and running a station, seemed too good to turn down.

What was the alternative?  Whilst I had no illusions about how different and physically demanding it would be, I felt a surge of excitement as I following Winston over the hill and through the gums. We crossed dried-up river beds, through gullies and around ant hills as big as my horse; the air was dry but clear and there was a wonderful smell of eucalyptus. Some three hours later we rode back into the yard in the soft light of dusk; Clarissa came running out and took the reins and led the horses back to the stables.

I gratefully accepted the offer to stay the night and later, lying in bed wide awake, I wondered what I was letting myself in for.”

(To be Continued – maybe)

Richard 26th December 2025

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PS Ideas always welcome!

PC 469 More from The Hope

Sami and Lisa come in through the doors and, spying Mo and me, come over; it’s been too long since I had seen them both. I decide to treat them to some coffee and ordered an Americano for Sami and a Mocha for Lisa from Libby. Regular readers will know that Lisa was writing an article for Brighton & Hove’s Argus newspaper about low level health care and had asked my opinion. (See PC 457 Low Level Health Care September 2025)

“Hey you two! Lisa, I saw that your article was published in The Argus in mid-October. Will there be a follow-up?”

“Hope so; nothing certain but they liked my style.”

“And, Sami, I read that not only has Sir Alan Bates finally agreed a settlement in his claim against the Post Office but that a 92-year-old ex-postmistress has also finalised hers. Not before time you might think!” 

“Time passes, doesn’t it. I hadn’t realised Alan had started his campaign for justice for victims of the Horizon scandal more than twenty years ago. So pleased to understand part of his settlement includes compensation for those efforts”.

“Betty Brown fought for 22 years for justice after The Post Office accused her of false accounting after discrepancies in their County Durham branch books. She and her husband made up the £50k shortfall, which had been caused by erroneous Horizon software. Her husband died a year later. Then the Sunday Times, towards the end of November, had a poignant article about Michael Mann, accused of stealing £15,000 from his Post Office in 2013. In October that year Mike committed suicide, so depressed at being sacked from the job he loved. The public enquiry is now analysing the evidence it’s collected and is handing over files to the Metropolitan Police for possible criminal charges. Operation Olympos has so far identified seven suspects, with a formal prosecution expected to begin in 2028; nothing seems guaranteed and meanwhile those wrongly convicted wither.”

“You probably missed the obituary of Lam Leung-tim ……”

“Who he?”

“A Chinese businessman who created ‘a kingdom from nothing’ after the Japanese occupation of China during the Second World War. His name sadly will not be familiar but one of his plastic toys, the little yellow duck, will be.

Who hasn’t had one in their bath, if you have a bath in which to float it nowadays(?), or indeed watched one of the many ‘Yellow Duck Races’.”

“Ah!” Says Mo, “There’s one held every year on the River Arun during the Arundel Festival of The Arts, here in Sussex. Two thousand yellow ducks, each with a number corresponding to a £1 ticket, are poured from a bag from a bridge.

The winning duck earns its owner £100, second and third £50 and £25 respectively and the remaining money goes to local charities. All the ducks are cleared from the river by the Arun Divers Club.”

“Did you know,” Sami interrupts, “that Lam says he made a ‘pleasant mistake’; there’s an old Chinese saying ‘yellow goose and green duck’ ….. but Lam made his duck yellow! He lived to 101.”

“Wow! That’s a lovely anecdote to our love of the yellow ducks.”

“How was your birthday, Richard?” asked Lisa “Not sure Sami told me”, she said, looking at her partner quizzically.

“Great. Dinner in a new restaurant in Church Road, Maré, and all the normal birthday stuff, including birthday wishes from Joe at the Amundsen-Scott South Pole Base. (see PC 403 Idle Thoughts about This and That September 2024)

You’ll have to take my word for it, as you could argue that the email could have come from anywhere! Joe owns one of the apartments in Gilmour House, the other half of Amber House. His contract finished at the end of October and he’s on his way back to Hove, via Thailand and SE Asia.”

Mo butts in: “You’ll have a view, Richard, about the budget last month; what did you think of the removal of the Child Benefit Cap?”

“I had to check the facts. Previously you could claim the benefit for every child; you’d qualify if you’re responsible for a child under 16 and live here, providing neither parent earns more than £80,000. New rules were introduced in 2017, limiting it to two children. The aim was to end the iniquity of workless households getting paid by the state for having larger families than those with jobs could afford. Today families on Universal Credit, which is typically means-tested, get £3500 per child. In removing the cap by April 2026, the government aims to lift hundreds of thousands of children out of poverty. Critics of the lifting of the ban argue there’s no real measure of ‘poverty’, it should be down to parental responsibility to decide how many children to have and whether they are affordable, and that it’s not for The State to say: ‘we’ll pay more and more’.

“You know my view Richard.” says Mo. “If you want to have children, you have to understand that there is a cost involved and there’s a responsibility for both parents, the mother and the father. There’s been an increase of about 10% in the number of families headed up by a single parent since 2019. Mothers make up 85% of the 3 million single parent families here in the UK. Not sure how you can change this, educating society about basic responsibilities, be more draconian about financial support from the absent parent? The more the state helps financially the less incentive there is to change. Don’t think Joe and Joanna Public are in favour of lifting the ban.”

“I do feel a bit concerned that the ‘Ship of State’ is captained by someone who’s just qualified, that most of his crew try hard to please him but have little professional experience, and there’s an ongoing dispute as to the destination, let alone how to navigate there.”

Richard 12th December 2025

Hove

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PS The knife was successful!